11 Things I've Learned Since Becoming a Mom
1. This crap is hard. And it’s hard for everyone. Whether you have “only” one or “only” four, being a mom is hard. You’re solely responsible for another human being on top of being everything else you were before you had that baby – wife, daughter, sister, friend, housekeeper, and businesswoman. All of it. And just because you think you may have it worse than someone else, doesn’t mean their hardships are any less important or severe. Cut yourself, and others some slack! We’re all doing the best we can with what we have. 2. Some of those food pouches are actually kind of good – and totally count as food when you’re too busy/too lazy to actually make lunch. Granola bars also count - even better if they're covered in chocolate.
3. Finding mom friends is SO important. You need people to talk to when your baby has a rash, or when you don’t know how to get the baby to sleep. You need people to have girls’ nights with who understand why you were 20 minutes late without you having to explain it. You need people to have play dates with who don’t care if your house is messy. I have a small group of mom friends who have become some of my very best friends. You need support – and you need to support others! Plus, sometimes you need a reason to leave the house and see people who don’t care that every time they see you, you’re wearing the same pair of yoga pants. Ahem.
4. All babies do all things in their own time. I’m a part of a couple of different Mom’s groups and there seems to be this recurring theme of milestones. Advanced Babies. Babies falling behind. Teething babies. Walking babies. Talking babies. Guys – I’m in my 20s and I still cannot throw a basketball at a tiny little hoop and make it in. Ever. Does it mean my motor skills are lacking? No. It means I’ve been spending my time and efforts working on gaining other skills. The same goes for babies! A dear friend of mine always says the same thing when we’re worried about milestones – “Your kid isn’t going to be the only one in Kindergarten who can’t do (insert skill here.)” And it’s true. People are so quick to humble-brag about their oh-so-advanced babies. But it doesn’t mean your baby is slow because their baby is “fast”. Your kid is moving at his/her own pace – it’s your job to go alongside them, not push them to go faster. Trust me when I say – they’ll get there.
5.Dry shampoo is awesome.
6. You will suddenly become very comfortable with poop and talking about it. Like comfortable on an uncomfortable level. You’ll make jokes about poop. You’ll talk to your husband about poop. Oh. And you’ll inevitably get poop on you.
7. You will talk about date night, about how much you need a night out. You will talk about going to the spa. You will look forward to bedtime, some days beginning 5 minutes after they wake up. But you’ll talk about your kids the whole time you’re eating. You’ll show pictures of your kids to the nail tech. And after bedtime, you’ll want to wake them up to play with them and cuddle with them.
8. It’s okay to need help. Ask for it if you do, and realize that Rome wasn’t built in day. You’re not going to just give birth and be up and running the next day. One again, this crap is hard. So ask for help when you need it.
9. It’s also okay to not need help. People still assume that I’m just incredibly overwhelmed with my babies and that I always need a break. Truth be told – this is a lot of work, but I love doing it every day. If I eat a cold meal, it’s because I was taking care of my baby and that’s okay. This cold meal, sleepless nights, busy time of my life, of OUR lives, is such a short season that I really love experiencing all of it. I’m incredibly blessed to have such amazing support and helpful hands when I need it, but most of the time, I really am okay. Is it hard? Yes. Am I okay with it being hard? Also, yes. I got this. And if I don’t, see number 8.
10. A baby-wearing dad is one of the Top 10 hottest things in the world. Period. Add a diaper bag over his shoulder? Hubba hubba. See?
11. This is fleeting. Guys, my boys are 8 months old. It literally feels like last week Tomas was driving me to the hospital to have my babies. I still remember what it felt like feeling two tiny people in my belly wiggle around, people I didn’t even know. And now I can’t imagine my life, myself without them. I heard this from everyone before I had kids. How their kids changed their lives, how in love with them they were. And I thought I knew. I didn’t know. I heard how quickly the time goes after you have babies. I didn’t know. This is by far, the most important thing I have learned. Because when it gets tough, when I get tired, I remember this is all so temporary and their littleness isn’t going to last. I am soaking it all in as much as I can. I mean... look how much they've grown already!
I hope y'all have a great weekend! It's supposed to be in the 70s here this weekend so we'll be soaking that up as much as possible!!
Happy Friday, Happy Weekend!